All the Single Ladies

This here is a long distance dedication to the ones (the ladies) I love . . .

Several of my single friends lately have been struggling with the many facets of dating. And as I listen, it makes me sad. I remember how it feels. How hopeless and lonely it can seem. How tiring it is to constantly remind yourself that you are awesome. You are worth it. How hard it is to believe in your own happy ending sometimes.

This is what I wish someone would have said to me:

It might not work out. Who knows. I can feed you all the bullshit happy ending promises, but you still might end up on your couch, watching bad TV and crying into your pint of ice cream. In fact, I am sure you will be there again. We all will.

Being single is not easy. It's nice to be self sufficient and you should be. Be happy with who you are alone, sure. But fuck if sometimes you don't just want your boyfriend to zip up your dress.

I get it. I promise. I was there. Lonely. Scared. And tired of waiting. And I STILL don't have someone to zip up my dress, so ladies, let's be honest I fucked this up!

But seriously, just remember this is the time to be selfish. To work on you. To do what you want. So use it. Have adventures, make mistakes and laugh with your best friends about your awkward dates/hookups/online dating emails/parking lot adventures...

I can't promise you it will for sure get better. But I think it will. A man (or a woman) will see in you what I see. You are lovely, hilarious, kind and fucking bomb.

If I wanted to sleep with chicks, I would have already hit that by now.

Truth.

Take it from me. If I can find love with my whacked out crazy brain & heart, so can you. Just take a deep breath, remind yourself for the 4000th time that your are smart, beautiful and funny as hell, and walk out into the world asking for what you want.

You don't NEED a man. You want one. And that's normal. Don't beat yourself up. Most of us want to share our lives with someone. It's not weak, it is human.

I think you deserve a partner. Someone to share you happiness and your sorrows with. I know you deserve love.

And even if you can't right now, I believe in your happy ending for you.